Of Stones and Memories

Today, I gathered stones from the middle of the stream.

Just like with my memories,

I choose the ones I keep.

Just like with these stones,

The harsh edges of my memories soften

With life’s constant changes.

Changes wash over me

Like the flowing creek,

Which hones the path of my mind.

I can choose what to keep –

What to let wash away.

Today, I gathered stones.

Today, I choose to remember love.

My time with my family is drawing to an end. We went to the creek nearby and walked through the cool water. I took these pictures as I collected several small, flat, rounded stones to take a long
– in memory of my time with my family.

Like every family we have issues. I suppose, we all could dwell on those. But soon I won’t see my loved ones for a long time. Yes, annoying habits and idiosyncrasies will no longer be an issue, but along with those disappear the hugs and endless kindnesses.

Love is a choice and I believe memories are too. Maybe, choosing certain memories over others is the loving thing to do. Maybe love is less about a feeling but more about choosing what I remember.
Maybe that is what forgiveness is,

choosing to remember love.

(Heidi Viars, 2013)


“Above all, love each other deeply,
love covers over a multitude of sins.”
1 Peter 4:8


  1. Beautifully said, Heidi. So much of our difficult rites of passage include just this, the choosing of stones, the laying down of those we throw in order to pick up the ones we ought to keep. May you be blessed as you learn to choose well…


  2. Hallo Heidi,
    wenn Du das liest, bist Du sicher gut zu Hause angekommen. Die Zeit mit Euch allen war so wunderschön. Das Haus ist so leer ohne Euch!!! Wir vermissen Euch jetzt schon.
    Grüße die Jungs und Scotty.
    Wir haben Euch so lieb!!!!!


    • Hallo Mama,
      Die Koffer sind wieder ausgepackt. Wir vermissen Euch alle ganz doll … Scotty ist froh, dass sein Haus jetzt nicht mehr so lehr ist 🙂 … aber irgendwann leben wir da, wo wir hingehoeren… und dann … muss auch keiner mehr abreisen!!!!
      Ganz viele Kuesse und Gruesse an alle … und vor allem an die Kleinste!!!
      Wir haben Euch lieb!


  3. Heidi,

    This was beautiful, and it hit home. “Maybe that is what forgiveness is,

    choosing to remember love.” Thank you Heidi, for sharing this. It truly spoke to my heart. Perhaps, instead of remembering all of the hurts, I must remember the love. I’m going to bed now, because I want that to be my last thought tonight. (Actually it’s 3:30 am, and I haven’t been able to sleep) God bless you, my friend!



    • What a beautiful comment (though I don’t like that you can’t sleep :-() … God is so good and He chose to forget our sins. Imitating the character of God is not always easy, but well worth trying 🙂 Much love to you, dear sister … You are such an encourager to those who read your blog and a blessing to me today!


  4. Thank you, Rene for those kind words. How gracious of God to help us capture these images. I pray they help us remember precious moments and mostly how marvelous and creative our God is. Blessings to you today


  5. As I get older, the lenses of my rose-colored glasses get thicker! Hurts and challenges of the past don’t stand out in harsh relief anymore. And the sweet, pleasant memories are awash in a glorious glow. Some might consider such an attitude to be unrealistic and fanciful. But your post gives the perfect explanation for wearing those thick glasses: “Choosing certain memories over others is the loving thing to do.” Thank you, Heidi, for your insight and uplift!


    • I so agree with you. Yes, thick glasses are good. I too like it when those close to me wear them to view me 🙂 Thanks so much for reading, empathizing, and commenting! Thanks for being an uplift to me 🙂


  6. So true, Heidi. I love how you compared our choices to remember the good and loving things with collecting the stones. Perhaps the stones will be reminders to pray for your loved ones, too. Very helpful words, my friend.


  7. Heidi, I think this is my favorite post of yours. It will help others to be a blessing and be blessed if we imitate your words and attitude that has shone through in this poem; lovely in every sense of the word. 🙂


    • Wendy, this is the most difficult post I have written. It’s difficult to let go -not only of people but more so of the right to hold things against them. I believe only God can help us with this. He can make this happen through His Spirit. I also believe this is one of those things in His will. And if we ask, according to His will, He hears.
      You are such an encourager … glad to see you post again, dear blogging friend 🙂


      • Your words about letting go have stayed with me, as I need them for an upcoming visit. Yes, “forgiveness is giving up our right to get even..” It is not optional for the forgiven not to forgive. I love your analogy about the stones… it is about choice. Well done, Heidi!


  8. Another beautiful poem Heidi … May the water of the Word wash away hurts … anything that has caused us pain, trapped within our memories and may love, Love prevail. ‘Choosing to remember love’ sounds like a poem title for you Heidi xx


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