Until Masks Us Do Part

An Almost Biblical Guide to Planning and Celebrating a Pandemic Wedding 

Planning and eventually celebrating a wedding in a pandemic is an epic experience. My son and his now wife picked the date for this unforgettable occasion in the summer of 2019, when the word pandemic was only something both had studied in history class. They say pain helps us experience a deeper sense of connection. It’s true. We all connected – deeply. 

Here are six (almost) Biblical lessons we learned the hard way: 

Memorize James 4:15 before you get started. “Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.”
This is especially important if you hear someone say, “Your wedding dress should be here at the end of March!” 

Memorize and apply Matthew 18:22 “Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.'”
To the list of those who need forgiveness willingly add:
The Bridesmaids who change their minds and won’t come – AFTER their dresses are bought 
The baker who cancels the cake last minute 
The photographer who changes his mind about taking photos
The caterer who decides to drop the food off but not serve it or clean up

If you recently embraced being more like Mary, well, become a Martha again! 
This includes washing the dishes in your nice dress (see last point of #2)
In the event you get mad about your wet dress, replace Luke 10:38-42 (Jesus’ talk with Martha) with Matthew 23:11 “The greatest among you will be your servant.”

Remember, “Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s.” (Mark 12:17) Just make sure Caesar’s office is open. Take lessons from the persistent widow here. Keep knocking. Your lack of determination can lead to licensing issues with the State the day before the wedding, which will have a domino effect on the pastor having issues. You won’t have time for all of this since you are on the phone with all the people you are busy forgiving (see again #2)

DO NOT IGNORE THE MASKS! This cannot be overstated. If you do, you will end up studying Acts 15:39 “And there arose a sharp disagreement, so that they separated from each other.” 
In order to avoid sharp disagreements and separation, buy as many masks as you would flowers. Set out both on tables, in the church foyer and put them up as decorations. If your budget is tight and you wasted a whole lot of money on goods and services you never received, buy both at Hobby Lobby! Think reusable! Masks have great advantages as well. If by chance you end up with any photos of your wedding (see second to last point of #2), your goofy and tired smile can’t be seen.

When the day comes, remember 1 Corinthians 10:31 “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” and Philippians 2:3 “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” 
With lots of prayer and God’s help, it is possible to celebrate a wedding and the covenant made with God, in the most meaningful way. If you pulled off planning and celebrating a wedding in a pandemic, you have already embraced many difficulties and have gotten a great head-start on all the adventures yet to come. Facing them will be a piece of cake.

I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.
3 John 1:4 

(Essay, Heidi Viars, 2020) 


  1. Fantastic post,with so much assurance and guidance from the Lord in the form of his words quoted from the Holy Book.God has blessed you and your children abundantly.Pray for his constant support for you and your undertakings.Thanks a lot for sharing.🌹👍🙏


    • Thanks, Annie, for coming by and for reading. Yes, lets continue to examine ourselves … I know we will look back on our lives one day and wish we would have done this or that differently. While we are human and can’t avoid many mistakes … I think we will NEVER say, “I wish I would have been harsher.”
      So grateful for you and your blog and knowing I can come by seekingdivineperspective and find great encouragement! Keep going, sister.


    • We did end up having a wonderful time. It was more stressful for Corey and Ana and her parents. Parents of the groom have it a little easier, I think. It’s always funnier when it’s all over with 🙂
      Thank you for reading, friend!!! Much love to you and Mary!

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    • Thank you so much for reading, Nancy. I am enjoying some rest … but I miss us all being together. What a blessing to have all the kids close and in one place. … and what a blessing to add another member to the family … I am officially an outlaw … I think that’s what I am 🤔


  2. Getting used to seeing wedding couple’s wearing their masks these last few months.

    May be weird to see couples without them later in the future.

    They could be the party favors if made with their names and wedding date.

    Messed up about the bridesmaid who cancelled. They should always pay for their own dress, me thinks.

    Great post!


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    • I made the suggestion to go out in the street to find girls who would fit into the dresses … It’s biblical. There is a parable of a king throwing a banquet and people not showing up 🤣
      Thanks for reading, friend! You always thinks good things! Hugs

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  3. Passages match perfectly. What an occasion for one and all. My middle daughter is in the middle of planning her wedding being targeted for April 2021. Hoping COVID will be behind us by then. God’s grip to you and your family. – Alan

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  4. Thank you for posting this. I’ve witnessed far too many Christians acting unlike Jesus regarding masks and politics during these troubling times. It’s a breath of fresh air to read love and kindness from a personal and Biblical perspective.

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    • It is sad that even the smallest things can turn into arguments. With the Spirit’s help we are able to navigate through all this as we remember the kindness and goodness, the patience and love of God. We must be different than the world.

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